tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-40109128944902483442024-02-06T19:53:33.252-08:00One Day Baby PMama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-79032704479090006252014-05-30T21:51:00.001-07:002014-05-30T21:53:37.283-07:00Life Now<div style="text-align: justify;">
My life is so drastically different than it was 7 months ago before my little crawling, pulling himself up, raspberry blowing bug was born. As a very emotional person becoming a parent has made me even more emotional. And my wife who was once very stoic is now almost as much of an emotional bomb as I am. We have learned a lot about our relationship since we've become parents and I'm sure we have plenty more to learn.</div>
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I currently take bug( a nickname T coined for him) with me to work for 50 hours each week. We quickly realized while this was great money wise it doesn't work for our family time. I work quite a distance from home so it's not easy for T to come get him after work and I feel bad that she misses out on so much time with him. Starting in the fall I will only be working three days a week and one of those will be from home. I am so grateful that my current job is allowing me to adjust my schedule so drastically!</div>
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That has been one of the biggest issues for us. I work so much and I enjoy what I do and part of the allure of me for my clients is my always open availability. I struggled with being my same available self and doing what's best for my son and wife. My family is the most important thing to me so I have tried to adjust accordingly but it is a process.</div>
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Communication is so key in relationships. What we have found is that it is hard for us to both be happy about the extra stuff that needs to get done. Before we had bug we had all the time in the world to grocery shop, walk the dog, vacuum the floor, etc. Not it feels like there is not enough hours in the day. Our bickering consumes much more time than it should! I feel like I'm giving more than I should have to and she feels the same way. Right now we are both exhausted. </div>
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Thankfully both T and I have summers off so that should give us time to hopefully get into a rhythm. </div>
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Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-68031382866282928692014-02-25T09:42:00.001-08:002014-02-25T09:43:37.253-08:00The sweetest boyIver joined our family on October 22nd. T delivered him at home with me and two midwives present. We couldn't have asked for a better experience in welcoming our man to the world!<br />
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Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-91538760034087515962013-09-07T22:05:00.004-07:002013-09-07T22:05:50.695-07:00Still here! <div style="text-align: center;">
It's been 20 weeks since I last updated and it feels like time has flown by.</div>
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T will be 32 weeks on Monday. Baby P ( we didn't find out the gender) is a mover and a shaker and puts on a show for his two mommies every night. I can't wait to see my little baby on the outside! Only 58 or so more days to go!</div>
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I wanted to share here how happy I am that we are having a baby but also to still talk about how it still hurts in my heart that ill never be able to carry a child. As I've spent the last 8 months watching T's body grow and feel that baby kick and move I can't help but feel an empty space or longing in my body for that feeling. Ill admit that I'm jealous that she can check in with the baby all day long because its in her stomach. I'm jealous that its going to look like her. I'm jealous of so many things.</div>
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My mother in law asked me a few weeks ago out of the blue if I wished I was carrying the baby. Immediately I replied with," more than anything" It's something that I will never get to experience and I am mourning that option in my life.</div>
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With that being said I am so grateful and feel so lucky to have a Baby growing in T's belly. I can't wait to experience motherhood with her. Being her wife is the best thing that ever happened to me and I can't wait to see her be a mother!</div>
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I still follow along on the rest of your TTC journeys and I am sending so much baby dust your way. I feel your pain and heartache and I won't so bad for you to experience parenthood however that happens for you. </div>
Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-62907044575480661452013-04-09T09:53:00.003-07:002013-04-09T09:53:39.439-07:0010 weeks and countingAs of Monday T is 10 weeks pregnant. We have huge mouths and have now told the whole world including fb. It has been going by fast but very S L O W at the same time. I wanted to update the blog with the happenings at my house.<br />
-We have picked a fabulous group of midwives here in our town. Unfortunately our original midwife is not licensed to perform a home birth in our state so we had to go with a new group but so far it has been fantastic! We are very lucky to live in an area that is rather progressive and we have access to what some may see as " alternative" care. I have always dreaded going to the doctor. I've felt like I didn't have a choice in my care. I also have felt that my questions or concerns are an inconvenience to them. I have not felt that way even once in visiting the midwives or in emailing. Our appointments have been an hour plus and they have given us much needed info and then allowed us to make the decision for ourselves. Our next appt is the 27th and we will get to hear the heartbeat!<br />
- T has been tired, nauseous, and cranky. She had spring break last week and I think she left the house maybe three times out of nine days. She and I are so overjoyed about this baby so the crankiness and etc are welcomed with open arms.<br />
- my mom and T's mom are both very excited to be grandmas! The baby is the first grandchild on both sides and has plenty of people excited for its arrival.<br />
- We went to the first lactation appointment for me as I am going to try and breastfeed our baby. We are hoping I will get a good supply as after three months T will go back to work and I will take the baby to work with me. I would love to be able to bf at least until a year but we will see where this path takes us. I will be following the Newman<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"> Goldfarb protocols with some adjustments.</span><br />
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The first step was buying some medicine from overseas. I felt like I was committing a crime ( I might have been) but anything for baby P!<br />
I am really looking forward to this journey. The lactation consultant asked us to talk about how that would make us feel and T remarked that she might feel jealous of me. Melissa (the consultant) said this is very normal and will be something that we will have to continue to discuss. There may be some protectiveness in T when she sees her biological baby being fed by someone else. We will not have me breastfeed the baby until it is a month old to give T and the baby time to build their nursing relationship. This has not been easy for me because I of course feel sad that T can carry a child and I cannot. I want to step in as soon as possible but I understand where she is coming from. We will continue to explore these feelings and I think it will be beneficial to us.<br />
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-We have a changing table, dresser, crib, high chair and tons of cloth diapers. We both have thrifty parents and so we are similar. If its used, in good condition, and a good price... Then we snatch it up! We also have great group of friends who have given us their hand me downs. We also have cleared out the spare room and moved the bed downstairs to prepare the nursery. T's mom has agreed to make the baby quilt so we know it will be great!</div>
Well that's all for now.Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-84012141437168890122013-03-07T09:52:00.000-08:002013-03-07T09:52:08.760-08:00It's been a while.<div style="text-align: justify;">
I had a draft waiting to be uploaded to all the reasons I've been sad. I started it three weeks ago. T and I had inseminated on the 11th early in the am and we were both exhausted. The OPK line wasn't very dark that morning and we were both just a little stressed out about baby making. We decided not to inseminate the next day as both of us were just done for that cycle. The next week we went to meet T's cousins new baby and she remarked that she could hear my ovaries screaming when I held her baby. She didn't know that T and I were TTC so it wasn't as rude of a comment as it seems but boy did it hit me. But the blog was never posted I was just in a funk.......</div>
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I walked around in a funk until Friday when T called me (I was at the zoo with friends and my nanny kids) to tell me that and I quote " I think we're pregnant". I immediately asked her " who's pregnant?" "We are!" She sent me a text of the pregnancy test and it was indeed positive.</div>
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I was crying and shaking so much I couldn't believe it. </div>
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I still had an hour left of work and a long car ride home ( which I spent on the phone with my wife). When I finally got home I ran in and hugged T and cried! So we are pregant! T is five weeks along with a estimated due date of nov. 4th which is our dating anniversary! Right now we are just thanking our lucky stars everyday and hoping for the best! </div>
Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-16309350733819576402013-02-06T11:34:00.002-08:002013-02-06T11:34:33.340-08:00nope not pregnant<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-size: large;">This cycle was one of the hardest we've had. T spent the week before we could test laid up in bed. She couldn't eat, she couldn't move, she was wiped out and although we didn't logically think she would have morning sickness being one week pregnant we still got our hopes up. We took a test last Thursday am and it was negative, we both tried to sort of shrug it off and went to work as normal. Bad Idea. By the end of the day both of us were a mess. When I got home T had made dinner ( a new recipe) that was disgusting so we opted for fast food and ice cream. We talked a bit about how we were bummed but then proceeded to watch a reality TV show about babies being born in the hospital (another terrible idea!). I cried a little during the show but when the baby was born (It was a show on the BBC so it literally showed everything) T burst into tears and we both had a little cry. I think I did a good job of comforting her that night and not making it about myself. I know we both had gotten our hopes up and it just seemed right. Well we are on the other side again and will inseminate again this weekend. At this point we are on cycle number three so after this we only have three more months of at home insemination's and then we will probably be going the IUI route. </span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-size: large;">Another thing I've been thinking about lately is how much the Internet makes everything seem perfect these days. I know at least on my fb I only post happy stuff, cute pictures, or special occasions. If you read my fb it would seem as if I am the happiest person on the planet. I had a friend (who I use to talk to in real life but is now only a fb friend) call me the other day and tell me how she is now in a lesbian relationship. This is not the first one of our friends to come to us when they have become "gay" or decides to date a woman for the first time. We often come in contact with these friends that think just because you are with a woman life must be great. You will communicate so easily with each other. You will have your best friend with you all the time. This friend in particular wanted me to help her with some relationship issues (these were not issues that were typical for just a lesbian relationship). I found this laughable because I have only been in one relationship my whole life and I am really the wrong person to ask about dating and the ins and out of dealing with exes, but apparently because I am gay I should have some insight on this. And although T is my best friend, I don't think our relationship is any different than any other couple (heterosexual or not) that has their ups and downs. It takes a lot of work and a lot of communication to make a relationship work. Struggling down this road towards parenthood has been trying and will continue to test us. We are not any happier because we are gay. Life is Hard and it takes work! There are good days, great days, sad days, and really bad days. I don't want to seem ungrateful when friends come to us for advice because that's what friends are for. I just have such a hard time with people (friends) pigeonholing me because I'm gay. </span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-size: large;">In other news my counselor said that I am a little more sensitive than the average person. Not that I didn't already know this but boy was it a relief to have it confirmed! She also said there is nothing wrong with that! Woo-hoo! </span>Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-85354136930864991842013-01-28T10:39:00.000-08:002013-01-29T09:56:28.513-08:00Liebster Award! <div style="text-align: justify;">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">11 things about me<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"> I
am really looking forward to the hot date night that my wife and have planned
for this Saturday night. What does it include? A movie and a trip to the mall
for new socks and underwear. Not like sexy underwear just regular underwear. We
really know how to live it up!</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span>My
wife is a vegetarian so we eat vegetarian at home but one of my most favorite
foods are hot dogs.</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span>I
played the clarinet for 7 years growing up. I am still not sure I actually was
playing it the correct way.</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"> For
the first six years of my relationship with T I never did a load of my own
laundry, not even once. I now help fold it and put it away.</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span>I
have not put a relaxer (chemical straightener) in my hair since July and I am
hoping to never do it again. I am embracing my curls!</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"> I
have seen every episode of Law and Order SVU at least 5 times. I am obsessed
with that show and it has now transferred over to both regular L&O and Criminal
Intent.</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"> I
am obsessed with nail polish. I only purchase Essie and Opi and have over 75 bottles.
I probably paint my nails at least 3x a week.</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"> While
at counseling last week I couldn’t remember the last time I cried. Which for me
means it was at least a week before! I was so proud of myself.</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"> Three
years ago I “broke up” with a best friend of mine for dumb reasons. In the last
year I have reconnected with her and am so grateful that she didn’t shrug me
off for my stupidity.</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am in love with Mt. Dew.</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span>I
want to be a spy when I grow up. Like Alias or Nikita. This is not a joke.</span></li>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">My questions from Risa! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">1. What is
your favorite holiday? Christmas! I love how everyone is so cheery around the
holiday season. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">2. Are you a
morning person or night owl? I want to say night owl just because I love owls
but I think I’m more of a mid day person. I don’t like the extreme either way. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">3. What was
the greatest moment of your life? The greatest moment of my life was watching
my wife walk down the aisle to me. I burst into tears. I literally thought I
was unlovable for many years and I think that moment in front of our friends
and family I felt so loved! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">4. Why do you
blog? I blog to get my emotions about this crazy baby making journey out. It
has helped me tremendously in even this short while! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">5. What is
your favorite waste of time? P*nterest! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">6. What is
your favorite book or movie? Favorite book is “She’s come undone” by Wally Lamb
and Favorite movie is “The Bodyguard”---I’m not really a movie person so that’s
just been my go to for the last fifteen years or so! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">7. When was
the last time you cried?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Last Friday
when I realized with my schedule I won’t be able to see my counselor until
March.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">8. What
causes are you passionate about? Gay rights<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">9. What did
you want to be when you grew up? I really wanted to work at McDonald’s! And
then a lawyer and a teacher and if you read my other answers I still want to be
a spy! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">10. Beer,
wine, or hard liqueur? Neither. I probably drink twice a year so Mt. Dew
it is for me! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">11. What was the most important
lesson you have learned in life? Don’t be ashamed of your feelings. It takes
all kinds of kinds to make up this world. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">Here are my 11 questions for my nominees! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span>When
was your first kiss and who was it with?</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span>Do
people in your “real” life know about your blog?</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span>What
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<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span>What
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<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span>If
you could be any fruit what would you be?</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span>What
does your best day look like? (money is no object)</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span>Top
three songs</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span>What
would you say is your most annoying habit?</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sun or Snow?</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span>What
have you done that you are most proud of?</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">.<span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"> </span>Favorite
breakfast food?</span></li>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-size: large; line-height: 18px;"> And my nominees are:</span></span></div>
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<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-size: large; line-height: 18px;"> <a href="http://infertilityheartbreakblog.wordpress.com/">http://infertilityheartbreakblog.wordpress.com/</a></span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"> <a href="http://pepibebe.wordpress.com/">http://pepibebe.wordpress.com/</a></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-size: large;"> <a href="http://createdfamily.com/">http://createdfamily.com/</a></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-size: large;"> <a href="http://infertileinafertileland.blogspot.in/">http://infertileinafertileland.blogspot.in/</a></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-size: large;"> <a href="http://www.rollercoasterridetoparenthood.blogspot.com/">http://www.rollercoasterridetoparenthood.blogspot.com/</a></span></li>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-size: large;"> That's all the bloggers I can think of right now but I will keep my eye out for more. </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee; font-size: large;"> We are still in our 2ww over here so send us all your good vibes! </span></div>
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Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-75099670652130405272013-01-23T12:04:00.001-08:002013-01-23T12:04:35.696-08:00Waiting <div style="text-align: justify;">
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">I am still spending this time waiting anxiously over the next two weeks but I have really enjoyed writing down my thoughts here so I'm checking in again.</span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">-After going to dinner with my friend K (the one who I avoided for four months after finding out about her pregnancy) I decided to help plan her baby shower. This may be a very bad idea especially since the shower is going to be at my house and I can't back out if I get too anxious. Putting my big kid panties on! </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">-I logged on to one of my gossip websites today and realized this lady is having a baby!</span></div>
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<a href="http://celebritybabies.people.com/2013/01/23/chely-wright-pregnant-expecting-identical-twins/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">http://celebritybabies.people.com/2013/01/23/chely-wright-pregnant-expecting-identical-twins/</span></a></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">I am excited for her. I watched her documentary <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cjuPzS75cHM">Chely Wright : Wish Me Away Trailer</a></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"> and saw how hard it was for her to come out so I am glad that she is getting to live her authentic life! Also my two favorite lesbians from "The real l word" are having a baby as well! After suffering miscarriages and the death of their first child I am so excited for the two of them! That is enough of my congratulating famous people that have no idea who I am! </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">I had counseling again last week. We spent time talking about why I care so much about what people think about me. My counselor had me discuss what I really think people think about me. It was ugly stuff that I can't bring myself to write here but when I vocalized it I realized just how far down in the dumps I have gone. Her face seemed amazed that I felt these things about myself and she (of course) reassured me that not one of those things are true or is something that she has thought about me. I'm sure I'll have to revisit that soon. </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">We also talked about what the absolute worst case scenario is for T and I. Of course my worst case scenario is that we never have kids and then we separate and I end up alone. My counselor wants me to think about this and realize that even if that happens I will still be okay! I guess if I can rectify those feelings than right now my anxiety will subside because I know I will be okay. I'm still not sure about that but I did discuss it with T and I felt overwhelmed just talking about it so I'll put that on the To Do List as well! </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">Also I was nominated for a Liebster award!<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #b1b2b2;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px;"> </span></span></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #b1b2b2; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px;"><a href="http://whoshotdownmystork.blogspot.com/2013/01/ive-been-nominated.html">What's a Liebster?</a></span></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #b1b2b2; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">Someone actually is reading this thing! I plan to post my responses to the Liebster and my nominations this week! Thanks Risa (<a href="http://whoshotdownmystork.blogspot.com/">http://whoshotdownmystork.blogspot.com/</a>)! </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #b1b2b2; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;"><br /></span>Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-28779211381874783702013-01-18T20:25:00.001-08:002013-01-18T20:31:07.357-08:00What I've done since I last blogged<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #999999;"><br /></span>
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<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: white;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #f3f3f3; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #666666; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I <span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; font-size: 13px;">did <b>not</b> put my big girl panties on and go to the baby shower. On Saturday morning when I woke up I just knew I couldn't do it. I feel terrible and I am meeting my friends this weekend to give them the present for their new baby but I am still bummed that I couldn't suck it up to support them. </span></span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; font-size: 13px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #666666; color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I was a big bum that whole weekend but I did make it to dinner with my friend on Monday. It was great to see her and her belly and the baby's room which is decorated in owls. We had a really nice dinner and I got to hear all about the baby stuff. I had intended to apologize for my absence the last 5 months (yes 5 months!) but they didn't really make a big deal of it so it never came up. I was glad to but at the same time I really wanted to bring bring up so they would know what T and I have been up to but also part of me has been trying to sort of get out of my feelings as my sister would say. I get very emotional about everything and I'm trying to change that. I spend all this time feeling sorry for myself and complaining about my life when I really am so incredibly lucky.</span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; font-size: 13px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #666666; color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> Wednesday we celebrated T's 29th birthday with yummy Indian food and family and friends. This is the 10th birthday that I that I've spent with T. 10 is a lot of birthdays to celebrate with someone and I'm so grateful and lucky to have the partner that I do. I've been thinking about other people that have dreams for a home and a job and a partner and I'm so blessed to have all those things. I really feel lucky and special to be where I am.</span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #666666; border-collapse: collapse; color: white; font-size: 13px;">That being said of course I'm still down about not having a baby. We inseminated at 6 o'clock in the morning today in dark parking lot. yes that's true . I looked at my wife and I thought to myself "wow, this is insane". I told her I wouldn't want to be doing this with anyone but her. I don't know if I could find anyone else to go with me to a dark parking lot in the middle of P-town and do a quick insemination before work. </span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #666666; color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; font-size: 13px;"> I</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; font-size: 13px;">t's a journey that we are on and part of it is hard and I am struggling but boy am I lucky to be here and that's what I'm grateful for.</span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; font-size: 13px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #666666; color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So Now we Wait 2 weeks. The cycle continues! </span></span></li>
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Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-27155933441945573572013-01-08T11:47:00.001-08:002013-01-08T11:47:35.501-08:00Santa Didn't leave us an Extra Christmas Present
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So we got another negative pregnancy test yesterday. I am in
a funk about that. That’s all for now about that. <o:p></o:p></div>
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We did get some great news about our sperm donor’s semen
analysis though. It came back off the charts so we are very excited about that.
His numbers are so high that they don’t even need us to test him a second time
without him abstaining. That’s a little money we get to put back in the baby
account! <o:p></o:p></div>
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T and I are having dinner with a pregnant friend next week.
This friend is very close to us and I have been terrible at supporting her
since finding out news of her pregnancy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>She sent T and I a text with a picture of the pregnancy test and said,
“Well this is happening…” T and I had just got a negative test the week before
and I was a little bummed still. This was not a planned pregnancy for them but
they very much were happy about it. I had a hard time adjusting to the idea. I
have cancelled no less then 4 times on them since finding out the news. I haven’t
even seen her since they found out they were expecting. I didn’t even know what
she was naming the little baby until I found out on fb. I feel so bad for
missing out on these special moments with a friend. She doesn’t know that T and
I have been trying for the last 14 months so she has no idea why I’ve been
pulling back from her. I am determined to not cancel on her this time and am
looking forward to seeing her little belly.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span><o:p></o:p></div>
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At my counseling appointment last week I discussed this with
my counselor and she reassured me that my feelings were okay.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I think the reason counseling works for me is
because I like to talk about my feelings and just get validation that what I am
feeling is okay and that I’m not a terrible person. I hope to one day be able
to provide this validation to myself. <o:p></o:p></div>
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T and I are also going to a baby shower this weekend to
celebrate the baby of another one of our friends. We are so very happy for this
couple and even made them a baby mobile for the little lady to come! This will
be the first baby shower that I have been to since T and I started trying. My
counselor recommended that T and I plan something for after the shower to avoid
just going home and having a meltdown. I am taking T to a new restaurant for
dinner. We use to go to new restaurants all the time and I have really missed
doing that so both the shower and the dinner will make for a good Saturday. <o:p></o:p></div>
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At this point I am just tired and sad about not being
pregnant this time. It’s a tricky situation because the pregnancy is not
happening in T’s body but I feel this heartache as if It’s me that’s failing at
this. I can’t explain the heartache that I feel and the feeling that something
is missing in our lives. If I could be more supportive and make her life less
stressful then maybe we’d have a baby. Or if I could not get so worked up about
it then maybe…. Or If I could buy the right ovulation tests….or look up this
information then maybe…. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I really got my
<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>hopes up this time <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>and was thinking about <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>how great it would have been to have <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>made a baby on Christmas. I <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>really want to enjoy the life that we have now
(sleeping in on the weekends, staying in the house all day and sewing and
reading, going to a late night movie, or trying out a new restaurant) but I
want so bad to snuggle a little one and decorate a nursery and just be a mama. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I feel like I am living frozen in one place.
Going day after day doing the same thing all the while waiting for something
great to happen. <o:p></o:p></div>
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This evening I am at work. I have been working more and more lately to try and save money for Baby P. I sometimes work 60 plus hours a week but I am hoping it will all be worth it in the end. My wishes for 2013 are very big. </div>
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<li>I wish to be a better wife. I can legally marry T now and I want so much to be better for her. 2012 brought 6 months of physical separation (T finished a job and I moved back home to look for a new one) and with that a huge adjustment period and lots of changes in our relationship. I have become much more independent than I use to be and I am hoping to continue that work. I hope to continue to encourage T in all of her hopes and aspirations. She is my biggest cheerleader and I want to be the same for her. I am blessed to have her. I want to work hard on remembering that and not taking it for granted. </li>
<li>I hope to make my nanny agency fully on board and also hire some other nannies to work underneath me. </li>
<li>-I hope to continue my new love of sewing and get better at it. I also hope to become more patient and more of a perfectionist. I would like to make quality things. </li>
<li>-I hope to get out and enjoy life more. I want to not cancel on friends/plans. I would like to go out to new restaurants and maybe go whitewater rafting again this summer. I hope that I get to Hawaii for Thanksgiving. </li>
<li>-Last but definitely not least I want more than anything to be blessed with a baby this year. I want to become a family. I want to see T be a mommy. While we may not end 2013 with a baby being born (although I'd love that), I'd love to at least have a baby in T's belly. I want to be a Mama. </li>
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Today T and I visited a friends new baby boy. He is two weeks old and an absolute doll. T and I spent an hour passing this precious thing back and forth. The friend remarked that we needed a baby. I was so proud of myself for not spilling all of my thoughts right then. I wouldn't really have cared but T is more private and likes to keep our story to herself. This is something I also have to work on. When I'm anxious or uncomfortable I am a blabber mouth. Even when I can tell that i'm making people uncomfortable I keep talking. I suppose I'll add that to my list. After we left the new baby and went home, It was snowing. It was a wonderful drive home but I was in a funk. T even asked if I wanted to go for a walk in the snow. It reminded me of when we were just friends 9 years ago and on a summer night we sat out in the rain. That's when I fell in love with her. I remember sitting next to her and just realizing that I was in love with my best friend. But today I said no to the walk and went to bed and took a nap. I sometimes let it all get to me so fast and I'm trying not to get to worked up during this 2ww but we are halfway done with it and my nerves are a wreck. I have another counseling appointment on Wednesday and I'm hoping that will help.</div>
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Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-15379340383447774702012-12-29T18:29:00.001-08:002012-12-29T18:36:49.745-08:00Baby Clothes and A Crib<div style="text-align: justify;">
So yesterday T and I were taking a load of books and clothes to a charity drop off truck. You have to unload your stuff and it must fit inside the container. Well some people had dropped off some stuff before us that was to big for the container and just left it outside. I have to justify this because why else would I take a crib that was left for a donation center? So now T and I have a lovely wooden crib in our garage for our as of yet uncreated baby. Call us crazy but I love it! </div>
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Also when I was in the garage yesterday I took out our rubbermaid container of baby clothes. They are all unisex clothes. Different animal jumpers, bug bibs and of course the star fleece baby cozy that started it all. This actually brought <b>no</b> tears of sadness to my eyes. I enjoyed looking at the hopes and dreams that T and I have for a child that we do not have yet. </div>
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We have had a number of friends and family recently become pregnant/or have their fourth or in one case even 7th baby! I have to admit that it is a little bit uncomfortable for me to say the least. I want so badly to have just one and seven just seems like rubbing it in! Sometimes I feel a little Bah Humbug about it all. </div>
Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-54651767948603835532012-12-27T19:17:00.000-08:002012-12-29T18:32:03.026-08:00Don't get your hopes up.<div style="text-align: justify;">
My wife said the funniest/saddest thing to me last night. As I was perusing P*interest I stopped and looked at a DIY crib sheet item. I started thinking how cool that would be to make sheets out of whatever fabric you wanted. T said to me, "I don't want you to get too planny planny, just because we got a new donor and everything doesn't mean it's going to work this time. I don't want you to get your hopes up." When I write this it sounds snarky but really the way she said it was so sweet and kind to me. She really doesn't want me to be sad if this doesn't work again. I feel so bad for being sad sometimes because I know that it may overshadow her sadness as well. In our lives together it seems that there is only room for one of us to be sad at a time (and to be honest most of the time it's me). I know T is having a hard time dealing with her emotions and helping me manage mine on top of it must not help at all. I am hoping now that I am going to therapy it will take some of the burden off of her.</div>
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Another reason this was funny is because I have always been a planning/dreaming type. Before I met T I dreamed of falling in love. When I would make a wish in a pond or on a shooting star I always wished for someone to love me. I would have these pretend documentaries in my head where I would fall in love and have a wedding and live life happily ever after. On long drives I would imagine all the wonderful things that would happen once I fell in love. And although my life is not perfect I truly believe that part of the reason T and I are so blessed is because I wished so HARD for it. I spoke it into existence to say the least. I have been doing this for the past year about our baby dreams and for a little bit that dripped off. I stopped speaking my wish for a child because I thought I was jinxing it. I want more than anything to go in my garage and look at the box of baby clothes but I feel if I do I will jinx any chance of a Baby to come. I realistically am aware that this is not how life works but a little part of me thinks just maybe. If I did it before...I can do it again. So I'm sorry wife but my hopes are already up.</div>
<br />Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-18001036225417820832012-12-26T16:28:00.000-08:002012-12-29T18:33:07.982-08:00Christmas <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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This was T and I in a parking lot on Christmas Eve. The money was to give our donor for a semen analysis test. The rest of the items were useful too. :-). We had to leave Xmas eve to meet up with our donor. It really was a great way to spend Christmas! It will be fun to think that our baby could be made on Christmas!</div>
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I think I am hopeful this cycle. A new donor and meeting with our midwife has restored some of my hope and of course the fact that we just gave him 220.00 for a semen analysis. It seems fitting to me that we would get pregnant after we paid for a semen analysis that will be useless to us if we are pregnant. Although it will be beneficial to us if we don't get pregnant this time and if we didn't do it now we would have to wait two weeks and then who knows how long it would take him to get in so we just decided to do it now. It could be the best 220 we've ever wasted! So we are officially in the 2WW. Tick. Tock. Tick. Tock</div>
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As for Christmas T and I had a wonderful time with both of our families. We weren't home last christmas and it was so sad. There is just nothing that beats a room full of people that you love and that love you! And I was really excited at all the presents we made for people this year. It seems like everyone liked them. T and I are hoping for a new baby in 2013.</div>
Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-14619264446064755992012-12-17T15:42:00.001-08:002012-12-29T18:33:26.051-08:00Donor Talk<div style="text-align: justify;">
Unfortunately the donor T and I were using moved out of the country for a fantastic job offer. While we were happy for him we were sad that we'd have to go back to the starting board in finding a new donor.</div>
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We have contemplated different things when looking for a donor. We would love to have a family member of mine donate but I don't have anyone in my family that is comfortable with the idea of donating to T and I. It seems as if it is a little out of the "Norm" for some people and that makes me sad but I have to respect their decisions.</div>
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This left us with finding a donor willing to be contacted once our child turns 18. We'd love our child to have the opportunity to contact the donor in the future if they wish. We have heard of some children (born from sperm donation) that have no desire to contact/meet their biological father but sometimes children are curious and like to know a little bit about the person that helped create them. We'd love to facilitate that relationship if and when our child would like that.</div>
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We could find a donor from a sperm bank that would agree to contact after the child turns 18 but to be honest the prices of sperm banks are insane. We'd love to avoid that extra cost if possible. The other things associated with TTC (sperm tests, medicines, and ovulation tests, consultations) cost quite a bit as well and we are trying to save money at this point in the case that things get much more expensive in the future.</div>
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We were able to find a donor on a donor website online. We met with him on Saturday and he was a joy to meet. He is Caucasian and has lovely blue eyes (T has amazing blue/green/gray eyes and I always look for someone that would mix with her genes and possibly end up with eyes her color). He had a great personality and seemed very willing and understanding with our TTC plan. He had a copy of a current STD test and his willing to get tested for sperm count in the next week or so. He seems like a dream.</div>
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Right now we are waiting for T to ovulate which should happen in the next 8-10 days or so. Right around Christmas. With the timing this may prevent us from inseminating this month but both the donor and of course us seem willing to make it work no matter how we have to sneak it in. It is funny how insemination's start to seem part of "normal" life after awhile. We have been able to fit them in on the way to coffee or after a dinner date. It's never quite all the way normal though, that's for sure.</div>
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Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-19927196422347943332012-12-14T14:58:00.002-08:002012-12-29T18:33:39.783-08:00Do you wish you had a baby like E?<div style="text-align: justify;">
Yesterday while driving my nanny charge Z (4 years) and his younger sister E (8 months) to the library I had an interesting conversation with Z (I have been Z's nanny since he was 4 months old).</div>
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"Hey G?"</div>
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"Yes Bud?"</div>
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"Do you wish you had a baby like E?"</div>
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I was taken aback because I have not talked about this with Z. Although my nanny family is aware T and I are TTC because I needed to let them know about appointments and whatnot that might come up. I have discussed this with them when Z is not around or in terms that he wouldn't catch on.</div>
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"Yes I do" I replied.</div>
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"Do you dream about having a little baby like E?"</div>
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"Yes I do" I said again. At this point I was like how is this kid reading my mind?!?</div>
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"You'll have one someday with T." He said then quickly followed that with "Hey you wanna play I spy?" and our conversation was over.</div>
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He is the sweetest guy and it just warmed my heart that he said that. Sometimes it's hard to be around kids all day when you want one so bad yourself but I wouldn't change my job for the world. I am very lucky. This morning when I asked my mom boss whether she had talked to Z about me and T having a baby she replied, "Yes, was that okay?" I said yes and she said it came up because she was telling him that she was saving all of E's clothes that are too small for her for when T and I have a baby. I almost burst into tears at this point. I have seen the clothes folded and put away in the garage but I thought they were waiting for a run to Goodwill. Not the case. These are clothes that my boss is saving for the hope that T and I will someday have a baby.</div>
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In the nanny world there is much talk about being a homosexual and being a nanny. Will parents frown on it? Is it something you should tell your nanny family? I have always been the nanny that is probably too close to her nanny family but I do practice a somewhat professional relationship with my nanny families. I am not friends with them on FB nor do I text them or hang out with them on the weekend. With that being said, they all know I am gay and as far as I can tell they are all okay with it. I speak of T and our lives together just like any other married couple would. I have even had T come along to my current job and past jobs when it's going to be a late night and if she want's to get in some baby snuggle time. I know that I may not look like the "typical" lesbian or even wear my "gayness" on my sleeve but I do make it a point to NEVER hide the life I live. Z and my current family came to my wedding to T and he still remembers the yummy punch he had at the wedding. I am lucky that my child will be brought into a community of family and friends that we have created that will welcome him/her with open arms.</div>
Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-34873548130526169512012-12-12T10:02:00.000-08:002012-12-29T18:33:51.874-08:00Counseling and Insemination Consultation<div style="text-align: justify;">
So Monday was the big day. Usually when I start with a new therapy I have a huge amount of anxiety and I typically talk myself out of going. Monday morning T went off to work and I spent the next three hours until my appointment debating on whether or not I was actually going to go to the appointment. I ended up going and I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders as soon as I left that hour long appointment! It is so amazing to be able to talk and have someone say things like, "I can see why you feel that way because..." It's like a light bulb went off in my head and I feel so much better about the way I feel and I am okay with being who I am. I obviously have tons of stuff to work on still but I am so grateful for that little bit of hope that was restored in me. There was another thing that stood out to me as well. The counselor said to me that our baby sounds like she/he is so wanted and will be so loved. I love when other people can see that. I also discussed the fact that T and I had purchased a little fleece star coat for our future baby almost 8 years ago. It has since been placed in a box with little clothes that we have seen that we thought a Baby P would love. This helped me realize that although we have only been actively trying for the last year, we have wanted this for 8 years and so (for me at least) it seems like we have been doing this forever.</div>
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After my counseling appointment T came home from work and we were off for an Insemination Consultation. Our thinking was that we were going to go and discuss options for inseminations at the office and etc. After talking to the midwife for an hour (who is a lesbian and just had her first child from artificial insemination as well) she thinks that we can still conceive at home and encouraged us to try at home for at least three months and 6 if possible. We are committed to 6 months. Not only will this allow us to create a baby in the way that we wanted to (at home) it will also allow us to continue to save money if this journey becomes much longer. For some reason finally talking to someone and seeing a success story at that was inspiring for me. At both places I got to tell my story and how I am feeling about not being able to carry a child and also about not getting a second opinion before I had my procedure. I was glad to get that out of me.</div>
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At the midwives office T and I were sitting on this couch/futon thing and we were talking about what we've been doing and the midwife asked me a question that really got me thinking. She asked me "Since you will not be carrying the baby and the baby will have a mom (T). What will you do or what do you need to do to feel as if you are mom as well?" Before I began to answer that question T reached over and placed her hand on my leg and gave me a squeeze. Instantly in my heart I felt better about this statement. I haven't spent much time thinking about the connection that I will build with the baby that will be separate from the one T will have as she will grow the baby in her body. For me it is going to be the snuggling with the baby, hopefully breastfeeding the baby, and also doing her laundry. I know that I will probably sing to the baby more and maybe that will be a special bond between us. I am so hopeful that 2013 will be the year that we are parents and I am looking forward to that so much.</div>
Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-90801204920230648802012-11-24T16:51:00.000-08:002012-12-29T18:34:11.001-08:00Thanksgiving<div style="text-align: justify;">
This Year T and I decided to go to the beach on our own for Thanksgiving. Typically we spend our Thanksgiving with my family and stop in and see some of T's family as well. Last year in Hawaii we didn't have that luxury and I cooked the two of us a Thanksgiving dinner with all the trimmings (minus a Turkey since T is a vegetarian and even I can't eat a whole Turkey). That was the best Thanksgiving ever! It really gave us a chance just to spend the whole day with each other with no interruptions. We didn't even get out of our pajamas (or poofies as my nanny family calls them! ).</div>
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This year was no different. We have made it a tradition to spend our Thanksgiving at the beach. Hopefully a different beach each year. Next year we are hoping to be back in Hawaii for the break. This year we got to the beach Wednesday afternoon and left Friday afternoon. We took Gilmore (our rottie) and spent two days catching up on Nikita and eating Thanksgiving foods to our hearts content. It was a much needed break from the craziness of our current lives and was great to reconnect with T and our lucky lives. With everything crazy going on and my depression/sadness of not being pregnant I often forget to stop and be thankful for the wonderful life that we have been blessed with.</div>
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For the last three years we have been going from one home to another while T has finished school and then looking for a job. This is the first time in at least five years where we both have full time jobs (that we like as a bonus!) and have a home to call our home. I can not be more Thankful for that and I often am waiting for the floor to fall from under us again. We made terrible financial choices and I am so grateful to be given this second chance at a fresh start.</div>
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T and I are both blessed with amazing families and friends. We love all of them and are reminded each day of their love with texts, calls and general visits and card games! We are overwhelmingly lucky in that aspect of our lives. I am going to try and remember these things when I get in one of my funks again!</div>
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And on the baby front our midwife couldn't meet with us on Wednesday because one of her patients went into labor. This is funny because what a way to kick you in the gut that other people are out there having babies when you are still trying. Although when I heard this I was actually excited for whoever this unknown mother was out there having a little Thanksgiving baby. I was happy that I felt this way. I have not been proud or unashamed of my jealousy and general sadness for pregnant people and I was glad that there was still a little of the happy Gwen left in there. Also I am grateful that we have found a local and small office that has to cancel appointments for that reason. I hope one day T and I are the parents that are having a baby and a midwife has to change appointments for that reason. There is still hope for us and I am looking forward to our next appointment Dec 10th. I will also be starting therapy at the beginning of December. This is long overdue for me and I am ready to start some emotional work. </div>
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I am also so excited for Christmas. It is my hands down favorite holiday. I just love everything about it and am excited to be back in the Northwest! Christmas just doesn't feel the same in 80 degree weather.</div>
Mama Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18278449607200368063noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010912894490248344.post-17578348830702306852012-11-19T12:33:00.001-08:002012-12-29T18:34:23.382-08:00Why Now?<div style="text-align: center;">
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I have been wanting to start a blog for the last year or so. T and I started our journey for a family a little over a year ago and to be a honest I truly believed that at this time we would have a baby either in our arms or in T's tummy. </div>
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I have been searching for some comfort everywhere I go. I have talked to pretty much everyone in my immediate circle and have gotten little to know support except from my few friends who have gone through this before. I am so grateful for them! However in the last year I have seen no less than ten of my friends become pregnant or have babies. This is something that has saddened me to no end. I am not yet comfortable with explaining my feelings of jealousy and remorse while at the same time being happy for my friends and family in their new baby joy! This is something that I have talked about to close family and friends and they just don't see the point.</div>
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"It takes time."</div>
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"You don't even know if anything is wrong with T."</div>
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"You should enjoy the free time you have now."</div>
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"Just relax."</div>
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I have heard all of these things and more in the past few months and each time I feel like I am going to explode. There is a certain sort of pain that just can't be explained when you see <b>another</b> negative pregnancy test after <b>another</b> long two week wait! </div>
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I know that counseling is in my immediate future but I wanted to join the awesome infertility community on the world wide web too. I am hoping that my blog will give people strength and insight on situations that may be new to them. I am also hoping to build relationships and learn from others while I continue to struggle on my journey. </div>
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A little about myself. I am a twenty eight year old full time nanny. I watch children from 6 months to 6 years. I have been doing this full time now for almost 5 years and I enjoy it immensely. My partner T is a Teacher. She enjoys her job as well. We have been together for nine years and have wanted children pretty much since day one of our relationship but just started in October of 2011. </div>
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T will be carrying the child. I suffered from PCOS (<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/PCOS">http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/PCOS</a>) and two years ago (after having my period for 6 months continuously) I had an Endometrial Ablation Procedure (<a href="http://women.webmd.com/endometrial-ablation-16200">http://women.webmd.com/endometrial-ablation-16200</a>).</div>
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This now leaves me unable to carry a child. I am also still struggling with this. </div>
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As of right now T and I have inseminated 12 times at home with donor sperm and are now looking to meet with a midwife and have insemination's at the office. We will have our first insemination consultation on Wed. I am beyond nervous. Through this whole process I have learned more about medical issues and fertility drugs than I ever would have thought and we have barely even touched base. At the same time I am looking forward to taking the enormous weight of this whole process off of T and my shoulders. It has been incredibly difficult to wonder if we are doing anything wrong and I am looking forward to having someone to "report" to as it may be. </div>
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I hope you all feel comfortable to discuss this with me here. But I do ask if you are a friend in real life that you keep our discussion here or in private. We have not yet shared our journey with everyone. </div>
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