Donor Talk

Unfortunately the donor T and I were using moved out of the country for a fantastic job offer. While we were happy for him we were sad that we'd have to go back to the starting board in finding a new donor.

We have contemplated different things when looking for a donor.  We would love to have a family member of mine donate but I don't have anyone in my family that is comfortable with the idea of donating to T and I. It seems as if it is  a little out of the "Norm" for some people and that makes me sad but I have to respect their decisions.

This left us with finding a donor willing to be contacted once our child turns 18. We'd love our child to have the opportunity to contact the donor in the future if they wish. We have heard of some children (born from sperm donation) that have no desire to contact/meet their biological father but sometimes children are curious and like to know a little bit about the person that helped create them. We'd love to facilitate that relationship if and when  our child would like that.

We could find a donor from a sperm bank that would agree to contact after the child turns 18 but to be honest the prices of sperm banks are insane. We'd love to avoid that extra cost if possible. The other things associated with TTC (sperm tests, medicines, and ovulation tests, consultations) cost quite a bit as well and we are trying to save money at this point in the case that things get much more expensive in the future.

We were able to find a donor on a donor website online. We met with him on Saturday and he was a joy to meet. He is Caucasian and has lovely blue eyes (T has amazing blue/green/gray eyes and I always look for someone that would mix with her genes and possibly end up with eyes her color). He had a great personality and seemed very willing and understanding with our TTC plan. He had a copy of a current STD test and his willing to get tested for sperm count in the next week or so.  He seems like a dream.

Right now we are waiting for T to ovulate which should happen in the next 8-10 days or so. Right around Christmas. With the timing this may prevent us from inseminating this month but both the donor and of course  us seem willing to make it work no matter how we have to sneak it in.  It is funny how insemination's start to seem part of "normal" life after awhile. We have been able to fit them in on the way to coffee or after a dinner date. It's never quite all the way  normal though,  that's for sure.